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1. Start slow and be kind to yourself. It's been a while, so don't put too much pressure on socializing perfectly right away. Take baby steps and focus on small wins.
2. Lean into shared experiences. A divorce or death of a significant other is something many people can relate to. Connecting over the challenges and growth from that life transition can help break the ice.
3. Refresh your interests and join groups. After a marriage, it's common for interests to have gone stagnant. Rediscovering hobbies and passions through local clubs or Meetup groups provides built-in icebreakers. (Singles groups, sports, outdoor adventures, etc.)
4. Work on active listening. Good listeners are extremely attractive at any age. Focus on asking engaged questions to keep conversation flowing and reflect back to the person what you heard them say to show you are listening to understand.
5. Be upfront about feeling rusty. A little self-deprecating humor can go a long way. Most people will appreciate the authenticity and it diffuses awkwardness.
6. Practice body language and eye contact. Slowly rebuild the habits of open and confident body language and eye contact. It conveys warmth and interest.
7. Have some stock stories/questions ready as conversation starters while you rebuild skills. (“What’s the best surprise you’ve ever received?”, “If you could be mentored by anyone in history who would you want to be your mentor and why?”, “If you were to win the lottery today, what would be the most extravagant thing you’d buy?”)
The main thing is to manage your expectations, get out there at your own pace, and focus on making human connections - not just romantic ones. With time and practice your confidence will build.
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